
Adults never know when they might make the difference in the life of a child. A kind word or timely advice can lay a foundation of character that lasts a lifetime.
As a child I remember someone saying—and I can’t remember who it was for sure—either a boy scout leader or maybe a soccer coach, but anyway, my tap instructor said something along the lines of: “The secret to selling the most Thin Mints was something something I did every day that taught me a lesson about character and eating disorders and something something for minorities to overcome discrimination in the workplace by submitting reimbursement forms with the original receipt could make adversity a lesson that helped me win an Oscar and I’m so lucky I had the presence of mind to wipe the place of fingerprints before leaving.”
Now that I think about it, the phrasing may have been slightly different. Perhaps the team mascot chanted something along the lines of: “The thing about tolerance I learned as a congressman was to find a source of water when lost in the woods and follow it downstream because taxes are too high and applying club soda to red wine stains while meeting Alex Trebek was a great honor and my life would be completely different if I had never stolen his credit card.”
But the exact wording of the juvenile detention warden isn’t as important as the general meaning…
…which is why I really, really wish I could remember the Steven Seagal impersonator’s general meaning.
But it doesn’t matter who said it.
And it doesn’t matter that the basic point escapes me.
Because they say the actual verbiage isn’t as important as the way those words made you feel…
…but I only remember feeling seasick, although I’ve never been to sea.
But here’s the most important part: It made such an impression on me that I vowed to live my life according to that principle and to never forget it.
Calhoun
April 4, 2011
Wow, it sounds like that Steven Seagal impersonator/Congressman/Boy Scout Leader/Team Mascot was not only a true Renaissance man, but an unforgettable influence.
I only hope to someday have the same meaningful impact on a young person’s life.
Girly
April 4, 2011
Ya know, I was JUST saying something kind of exactly like this only different and I can’t really remember to who… I’m thinking it was the postal lady but it could have been the guy on the bus and she was like “you know, I never thought of that thing like that, and I’m just, wow”… so there you go… write it down.
ajg
April 4, 2011
that’s tom cruise in the karate photo, right?
ryoko861
April 4, 2011
Honestly? I don’t have a clue as to what ANY of those meant. And I read them three times! They made no sense. The fact that you remember what was said is a miracle. I give you props.
Amy
April 4, 2011
It’s sometimes difficult to remember the exact words those influential adults said, especially after four Zimas and the loud music (what was it? Foghat?) and it was hard to see cause the van’s windows were tinted so dark. But, you are right, the impression will stay with you for a lifetime.
KenBroad
April 4, 2011
Definitely reminds me of the time when I was learning about the world from the “Average Tree of Trivial Information”. There was this chipmunk who told me this story, ummm….. no thats not right … it was a bear! Yeah a silly old bear that taught me the meaning of friendship was… no it wasn’t that either… wait,wait I have it. Obi Wan and I were on this retreat and he leans over and says to me – “A bounty hunter and a wookie walk into a bar” Hehe good times!
Anyway, this post has truly changed my life. You should perhaps think about turning it into a self-help book and marketing it on an Infomercial.
Renee Davies
April 5, 2011
Wow, that’s exactly what I remember being told just before I walked into the Bingo Hall on Saturday after supper at the Legion. Except, the message varied just a little when Bertie, the lady with curlers in her hair, pinched me on the hind leg and said “Remember Tootsie, it ain’t all fun in games in here, there’s a lot of meaning to the meaning of life, but you won’t find it here.” I shook my head with incredulity. How could she know so much for so small a head? I then asked her “Do you know the way to San Jose.” She laughed an exhuberant toothless laugh but things didn’t go well for Bertie that Saturday night. She fell off her stool and they carried her off to the hospital. She craved a burger on the way, so they pulled up at the McDonald’s drive-thru for a number 4.
The Good Greatsby
April 5, 2011
Sounds like you and I may know some of the same people.
lifeintheboomerlane
April 5, 2011
Yeah, I think this post has changed my life also. But then again, a lot of things change my life until about five seconds later when I can’t find my cell phone or my keys and then that changes my life for real.
spilledinkguy
April 5, 2011
When I was younger, adults sounded like they fell right out of Charlie Brown…
*wah wuh wah wah wah*
🙂
cooper
April 5, 2011
i tried to live life according to my principal and he got six years in jail for it…
nursemyra
April 6, 2011
haha….. good comment
Rachael Black
April 5, 2011
Poignant stories and message. Bravo.
For me the true meaning of life is not to be located in the famous proverbs ‘it’s milk under the bridge’ or ‘the early bird catches two in the bush.’
No!
I tried living life along the meaning of the universe, but 42 still didn’t address certain issues such as What is 9 x7 using Base Eight.
The lesson learned here, and that I’ve had to adhere to is one that is not famous or trite, and I hope it will work for you also:
If I had a Hammer
The Good Greatsby
April 5, 2011
If you believe the meaning of the universe is 42, I assume you’re a Hitchhiker fan and this is a great foundation for us to be friends.
laurenrantnrave
April 5, 2011
I bet I know who said whatever it is you think you were told but you couldn’t remember when or how or why; it was MattJ. 🙂
carldagostino
April 5, 2011
The thing every adult told us we we were little was “You’ll see.” What in the Sam hill was that supposed to mean? I hoped it didn’t mean that I would grow up to be a jerk like the adults with minds
so vapid all they could say was “You’ll see.”
The Good Greatsby
April 5, 2011
Once you have your kids you realize how much of what your parents said was nonsense because they simply didn’t have an answer or they were hoping you would forget.
Binky
April 5, 2011
Every kid needs some words of wisdom to live by or whatever.
Sandi Ormsby
April 5, 2011
It’s so funny the things we take with us. I learned not one thing in science class, except in jr. high when the teacher demonstrated our lungs with some machine and that when we exhale, there is always some oxygen remaining so that they won’t collapse.
that’s what I took from Science and that a “round” balloon to send a paperclip sailing across the ceiling wire (to the other side) in Physical Science won’t work. In the middle, the paper clip just kind of spins around until the balloon is completely deflated. In high school, don’t leave the test tube “beker-thingy” sitting over a lit buson burner…doing so, shoots it straight up into the styrofoam ceiling tiles and will stay.
Sandi
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Tooty Nolan
April 5, 2011
Of course that should have read ‘PERfect nonsense’. Oh how I hate that ‘Enter’ button.
madtante
April 5, 2011
You’re channeling LaRochefoucauld.
shreejacob
April 5, 2011
I am so sure that there is a point that I need to take from your post (that I enjoyed very much by the way) but I can’t seem to see it, though I felt it, and feeling is good, and I am sure that I will take that feeling with me and live by it and make a great success out of my life!
So I shall thank you now in case I forget where I got the feeling from. 😉
Bella
April 6, 2011
Hey, I love pearls of wisdom no matter what they are. Some of them have actually given me incentive. Take my mom’s famous, “Someday you’ll have kids of your own” which didn’t really make an impression at the time she said it but whose meaning came full circle when I had the rugrats. And what’s a woman to do with such a pearl? Pass it along to her own kids like some sort of heirloom. So whenever I’m beseeched by angst with something the Son did or plans to do, like a tattoo of God knows who, God knows where, I pull out the old pearl of “Some day you’ll have kids of your own.” For some reason it makes me feel better to say it. And that’s a fact.
educlaytion
April 6, 2011
Scary how much you and I can think. At least on this post. Probably. Maybe. Umm…
suzicate
April 6, 2011
Gee, I think I’ve had a lot of people make the same sort of impressions on me!
MamaTrack
April 7, 2011
Totally amusing. I’m glad it stuck with you!
Amanda Hoving
April 7, 2011
You are soooo my style! Thanks for stopping by yesterday — I will be back. Happy tap dancing!